Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Coffeeshop Boy

I've been hanging out at this cute little french bakery/coffee shop called La Petit Chat. It's such a cute little place and a legit bakery so it has so many yummy treats I like to splurge on every so often. There almond croissant so flaky and delicious and my "go-to" is the sticky oat bran muffin. I've been here for a couple of hours now, sipping some tea and alternating between reading poetry and writing letters to friend.

Just a second a go, a guy who works here dropped a note off. It said that he would ask me in person, but didn't think his boss would approve. He asked me to go out tomorrow night and gave me his number. I'm incredibly flattered!!! I thought we had one of those "clicks." I think he's cute. His little nephew and niece have come by to say hello and he's great with them. PLUS, he went to ORU so he watches the Ducks. So what's stopping me from giving a big resounding yes to his question??

Ryan. I like Ryan. I'm liking him more and more. I don't know about romantically, but I'm definitely heading in that direction. And I know he's hoping for something more with me eventually. Furthermore, Ryan is so understanding, sweet, and patient with me. I can't imagine someone who could be any better than that. Thing is, we are not dating. I could technically just go out with this coffeeshop guy. I want to actually. I think it would be fun and I want to branch out. The main thing stopping me is I KNOW it would hurt him. I don't want to hurt him or play games or anything like that. 

So I told the coffeeshop guy (he does have a name- Taylor) I think he's cute and I'm flattered, but I'm in a weird place relationally. I'm not dating but I'm not in the place to go there either. If he wants to get to know each other as friends, then cool. If not, we can leave it at that and just be polite strangers. I don't know if he's seen the message yet- I mean he's working right now. But I'll let you know how he responds.

MY LIFE. I'm really flattered though. To be seen as someone desirable? By legitimately nice guys who aren't just trying to sleep with me? Yeah, that makes me happy.



  1. are you not vegan anymore?

    1. I used to come to this little bakery for years. I had favorite pastries. They also have vegan options.

  2. this made me excited because there is a song called "taylor the latte boy" that I love and when I started reading this I thought "a coffeeshop guy, like Taylor" and that's really his name.. it's meant to be :)

  3. wow that would have been an exciting yet confusing situation. But I think you did the right thing :)

  4. Hey there.

    Is your surprise that a non-creeper type guy is out there, or that one is actually attracted to you? It never fails to amaze me that interesting, lovely, smart women continue to feel caught off guard that people are genuinely drawn to them. I'm telling you, I hear it at least three or four times a month.

    Rae, though I don't know you - know you, what I have seen, heard and read of you has made me think, "She'd be a neat person to have as a friend."

    I hope you keep taking care of yourself.


    This is what I though of when you said his name is Taylor.

  6. It's a booster on your self esteem, isn't it? Very happy you're in a happy place! Stay strong <3

  7. How nice must it be to feel wanted.

  8. Im so curious about his answer. And I have to mention that I would never have to courage to be so honest and direct. I do admire you because of the straightforwardness. Unfortunately, Im not able to involve myself with any feeling whatsoever for a guy and maybe this is the reason Im extremely interested in your feelings for Ryan. To my mind, its a good sign that you thought of him while talking to that Taylor. Just take one step at a time.

    Thank you so much for this post. It keeps my hopes up.

    Eva L.